Searching for a job can be a tough pill to swallow

Recently my house was besieged with sickness. I had one daughter with mono and strep throat, a son who sounded like a bull mastiff every time he coughed, and a little toddler who was slowly wilting like a dried flower because he was sick.

Any time I try to get my oldest daughter age 9.5 to swallow pills it’s like I’m trying to pull teeth. She hates swallowing pills. In fact, she tries different methods so she can avoid swallowing them. I try to tell her that if she will just swallow it, it will literally take her two seconds and the discomfort will be gone.

We have tried everything: smashing it up and putting it in a drink; leaving it in a glass of water hoping it would dissolve; once she tried chewing the pill but, “eeeewww,” that didn’t work.

Sometimes she even asks for advice, but in the end, no matter what I say to her, she is determined to do it her way.

I laugh sometimes to see the struggle.

The author Erica Jong is quoted as saying “Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t.”

I am often asked for career advice from people I know in regards to resume writing, career paths, interviewing, and general hiring practices.  Most of the people I talk to know what to do. They know they need to treat the job search like a full-time job. They know that a small percentage of jobs are filled via job boards. They also know that they need to be out networking.

Then, why do they still sit hour-after-hour sending generic, non-customized, resumes to “black holes” on job boards? Rather than asking their friends, acquaintances, and business connections for help or leads?  Fear of bugging them maybe? Or maybe just the path of least resistance.

But, just like taking medicine there is a direct path of getting hired that has larger resistance, that is difficult to swallow, but in the end will save you time and energy.

I was reading a great book called “Take the Risk” by Dr. Ben Carson. He has a sample Best/Worst case analysis that helps to clarify times of uncertainty. It is simple yet eloquent.

We can ask ourselves four questions and from the answers we should know what we should do.

If I take a risk, what is the best outcome? What is the worst outcome? If I do nothing what is the best outcome? What is the worst outcome?

Sit down sometime and think about your current scenario; whether it’s a job search, a career change, or simply networking with people you don’t know, and ask yourself about the risks. Answering those questions has really helped me to take a few more risks and achieve my realistic goals.

For anyone interested here is the link for the book on Amazon.


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