This video always make me think of my life with my wife.
This video always make me think of my life with my wife.
I was cleaning out the trunk of my car a few weeks ago and I noticed a box full of papers. Instead of quickly discarding the papers in the garbage i decided to rifle through them to see what papers had value. Most of the papers were about work and information about some of my various clients from 2007 up until 2010. These papers were out of date and quickly tossed into the trash. at the bottom of the pile of paperwork was an old personality test I had taken during my time with Rollins.
I quickly straighten the smashed and folded to pages to read the words the Psychologist had written about me more than 10 years ago. I laughed when my mind drifted back to my time in his office and the battery of test that i was submitted to. I remember my conversation with him as we had a few minutes of short talk before I started to control the conversation before he abruptly stopped me and took control of the conversation. I remember distinctly thinking at the time that i have never had anyone take the conversation away from me like that.
As I skipped the pages with their fancy charts and graphs the words leaped of off the page to me. High levels of Outgoing, competitive nature, dominate, less patience and conformity. Well I am pleased or displeased, depending on how you look at it, to see that not much has changed in the last 10 years. I sell for a living and the attributes that help to make me successful at my work career are the same attributes that i rank as high in my personality. That make sense, whether by push or pull you tend to gravitate towards things that suit your ability and skill level.
The page that has made the most impact was the recommendation by the Psychologist that I am bored easily after I feel that I have learned a topic or skill. The company, whose report this was made to, would need to put constant new opportunity in front of me to keep me. Little more than 18 months later those words would ring true as I left the company for a new opportunity.
As I sit and reflect over the last several weeks since reading the report I wonder where I put myself on the chart nowadays in my life. I like the fact that most of the attributes or personality traits have remained the same but I would hope after the previous 10 years I would have progressed and improved.
In 2011 I started my company with Craig and now I look at the calendar I see we have just completed 18 months and I feel that my life is one constant 30 day cycle making sure that I hit the sales numbers each month so we can hit the projected numbers we need to be profitable. The months seem to drone on and it gets tough to discern them from each other. I find myself working so hard on the now is hard to make sure that I can focus on the future all the while telling myself that the future has many new and great opportunities, which it does, to keep myself sane and somewhat focused.
Arghhh… Focus is the key things that I think really separate those who do and do not. So I guess for the next 10 years I want to improve my personality with focus and some patience. I feel you can’t have one without the other. I think with patience you can achieve some focus they are not mutually exclusive but there is a definite correlation. Check back with me in 10 and we can have a chat and see if I have focused a little more in my life.
Now back to making sales calls it only Friday at 4:19 pm.
Happiness is spending time with those you love and enjoy
I am an entrepreneur at heart. I guess I got the bug, maybe it’s part of my DNA or i was born to this end but i suppose i learned it from my father. I think he always wanted to have his own company. He owned a landscape and nursery company growing up and has done odd things through out the years to see about the possibility of striking out on his own.
So I have heard imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. My dad must be very flattered because I have embarked down the path of ownership and have more than once take the leap. I have owned part of a landscape company, pest control company, an online e-commerce company to benefit non profit organizations. To help control which thought or impulse I think about I have a book that I use from time to time to write in when I have a thought, impression and or gut feeling about a new potential business. I have found that writing my thoughts in the book help me see them differently and to be able to work out the kinks or feel confident they are safe to work, tinker on another day.
So through the years of recruiting I have always wanted to own my own recruiting company and now I have the chance. I have just a couple of thoughts.
1. The job is tougher than I thought it would be
2. The job is more rewarding that I thought it would be.
3. I am working on the assumption it will all be worth it.
So over the next few weeks I will am going to put words to paper (or WordPress) as way to get out of some of my thoughts as a person who is a small business owner/ entrepreneur as a way to digest what goes on around me.
I started this blog in an effort to help my recruiting effort and to push the the social media agenda for Matrix Resources. I no longer work at Matrix Resources but I have decided I will remake this blog into my own person blog. So….. I may post industry pieces on here and i may post things about my life. Take it all with a grain of salt.
I have four kids and have spent many hours reading books at night to my kids. One of the book, handed down by my parents, that has lasted throughout (the kids) is “Do’s and Don’ts” by Todd Parr.
The directions and advice offered from a children’s book offers parallels and advice that may be applied in various circumstances of day-to-day adulthood.
Amazon writes Do’s and Don’ts could be called an etiquette primer–sort of. “Do change your socks every day,” he tells us. “Don’t make anyone smell them,” he adds. “Do have lunch with a monkey,” but “don’t eat his bananas.” “Do brush your teeth after every meal,” but “don’t brush with peanut butter.” You get the idea.
I thought it would be appropriate to give you the “Do’s and Dont’s of Interviewing
Do arrive on-time to all interviews – including phone.
You want your first impression to be a great one! Tardiness may reflect upon you adversely.
Don’t be late so you feel you have to constantly apologize. Do wear appropriate attire for the interview. (If you do not know the environment call the day before and ask.)
Do bring a copy of your resume.
Do not bring a wrinkled or stained copy. Make sure it is up to date.
Do look at their website before interviewing.
Do not look at your phone while interviewing. Be sure that your phone is either off or on a silent setting. Do NOT answer your phone while in an interview
Do have a positive attitude
Don’t bad mouth your past employer, boss and or anyone else related to previous employment.
Do answer questions honestly
Don’t lie on your resume or in the interview. Lies will reflect someone you aren’t. Even if they help you get the your foot in the door, most transgressions will be brought to light and will affect you and your employer adversely eventually.
Do enjoy yourself
Don’t act needy or overzealous
Do explain your past employment experiences in as much detail as possible.
Don’t ramble on with stories that do not pertain to the position. Try not to exceed 45 seconds per answer unless asked
Do accept a great opportunity
Don’t waffle between jobs based on a difference of a few thousand dollars.
Do think about YOUR career goals.
Don’t jump at the first opportunity just because it is offered.
Do read all of my blog post so I can use Google ads and I can retire. 🙂
Special thanks to Lindsey for the helping editing the post. Yeah Lindsey..
This last week my family was given the Titanic of all playground sets. The behemoth had to have weight thousands of pounds and was put together with enough hardware to keep it together during a level 5 hurricane. My family was looking for a playground set for a while and was happy to take this off our friends hands. The take down and set up included several days of kicking, yelling, bruised knuckles and an occasional “Come on” screamed at the various beams of wood.
Finally, after several days we succeeded in putting the playground together. I turned around to let the kids jump on the swings and the new slide only to see my kids lower themselves into animals as they tussled and fought to be the first child down the slide. I thought how crazy their actions were for the situation, had they thought about it for a few seconds, no one ever cares nor remembers who was the first person on the monkey bar, slide or swing. I just had to laugh.
My oldest daughter who was third down the slide sat dejectedly on the slide and sulked about being third not first. I talked to her and told her to get over the slide. I didn’t want it to ruin her whole play experience. Having to wait 7 seconds while the boys went down the slide first should not ruin her moment, life, play time.
I wonder how many time we are blinded by what we feel is unfair or unjust situation and miss many great opportunities. I know my daughter missed about twenty minutes of play time she will never get back because she felt slighted that she was not the first person down the slide. None of that matters now 1 week later. Though, sometimes it’s easier said than done when we talk about emotions.
No sense in wasting time for things that in the end do not better you or make you happy. I have never met a content happy person who focuses on what didn’t happen as opposed to what did happen that was beneficial.
I had a day to remember yesterday. I could focus on: My car got a flat tire and the tire shop took two hours to put on my spare and send me to another tire store. I had to go back into the dentist because the filling they did last week is killing me and they had to redo some work. Perhaps I could talk about the blood drive I went to that was so backed up it took me two hours to get finished. I finally got home at 9 pm tired and beat.
What I saw was: Brent Bowen, a good friend, took time to pick me up and drop me off at the tire shop to get my car. The company where I had to take my flat tire fixed me up and did it all while remembering my name from my recent visit six weeks ago. The blood drive netted 57 pints of blood for the Red Cross and the hospital systems in Atlanta, our goal had been 48. I was able to stay up and spend time with my wife watching a movie.
I guess in the end I was truly blessed to see that yesterday for what it was, good times.
Recently I had blogged about the need to revisit how opportunity seekers can help raise their professionalism through updating their email address and voicemail.
Now let’s talk about some additional friendly advice.
I know you are on www.LinkedIn.com but do you know how to use it other than a resume dump. LinkedIn now boosts over 50 million subscribers and over 150,000 companies using their site. In my opinion this is the premier site to look for top talent. I do not like to use job boards anymore.
The potential amount of people who can view your profile is enormous so it is time for an update for your profile. I see many profiles that list only the company name and title without any background about their work history or they have 1-2 sentences about their experience. It is not enough. I have a great Product Manager friend who is looking for work and he had two sentences that did not even begin to demonstrate his skills, needless to say we talked.
Now, LinkedIn is not a place to dump your resume and forget about it. LinkedIn is an opportunity to showcase your experience, albeit brief experience and any recommendations. Good rule of thumb would be 1/3 – 1/2 of your actual resume so usually I see 1-2 paragraphs.
I like to update something about my profile every week that will keep my profile in front of people as they login. You can actually enter into the edit feature change a word and then change it back and save the changes and your profile will show a change in profile. People are curious, if you change it they will read.
Also look at who is looking at your profile in the “Who’s viewed my profile” on the right side of the page. See if you can find out why.
The next friendly advice I will give you would be to set up some way to see the various job openings while maximizing your time. There is nothing worse than wasting time going from job board to job board. I use www.indeed.com to scan multiple job boards and company websites. On the front page go to the tools section, near the bottom of the page. In the tools section click on “Email Alerts”. The email alerts can be set up by many different factor like companies and position types. Every morning that there are new openings waiting in your inbox.
While we are talking about setting up alerts, Twitter is a place to find job . We recently had success finding candidates out on Twitter. Here is the post http://bit.ly/cawLt4. I use Tweet Deck and have set a column(s) that allows me to see things from contract in Atlanta to PHP developers in Atlanta. Great way to make sure there are not passive jobs you have missed.
As a friend I hope this helps. Tell me any success stories you have found.
Today, we are going to talk as friends not as deep friends who know each others thoughts but as friends who are strong enough to tell you the truth without you getting offended. It is time to get to change. I know change is scary but as your friend I think it is time to do an intervention. I am willing at the sake of our friendship tell you what your other friends and even your mom won’t discuss.
If you want to be viewed as a professional it is time to start acting in a professional manner. It is time to get move your email address from high school back to just your highschool friends. No more email@example.com, firstname.lastname@example.org, email@example.com, and I firstname.lastname@example.org. It is time to refine all of your touches. If you are out there networking and talking to people, why not set up a specific account just for your job search.
While you are looking at you email address why not take a look at all of the places that potential candidates first touch.
How do you answer the phone? Yo, hey, what’s up? I always like to err on the side of caution so if you wonder who the caller is answer with Hello. I talked to a potential candidate yesterday and he answered the phone Yo.
While you are practicing saying hello, when is the last time you listened to your voicemail message. Listen now and think about how it portray’s you. I recently called a friend who is actively looking for a position. My call went to voicemail. I heard a rather lethargic response. ” Hi you have reached “Chuck” I am not able to talk please leave a message and I will get back in touch with you when I can.” When I can? Really. Try something more professional. You can do it!
I hope I didn’t hurt any feelings but as your friend and hopeful recruiting professional I only want you to present yourself in the best manner possible.